Of course I got upset & he said that Im over reacting. It sounds like you and your daughter are very close! Some CASH and even a prepaid debit card (he cant trace), your important documents, somewhere you can go if you dont feel safe, someone who wont give your hideout away. This relationship counselor says 92% of men who cheat are sexually satisfied at home. That day I kicked him out only to beg him to stay. When I found out his girlfriend, the only girl he has dated since our divorce a year and a half ago, was someone he had met at his old job, I asked, Were you having an affair. He looked down at the floor and said, No, No. I hardly knew her when I worked there. men cheat, if they feel cheated. I just want him to be honest. I told him no, because I did not know her father like that. Some months passed and one day she called saying she was pregnant againhe became moody. I was right but he said he needed to get away from everything. I was in the store for about 15 minutes or so. This other woman saw him, they used to be friends. We were on and off until I thought he understood that I didnt want that in my life. Dont give him your power. To focus on ME, and whats left of my life .. and Heal from this, all while knowing I am doing the most loving thing for ME. So I have been suspecting my husband for a while of cheating on me (maybe more emotionally than physically). I love him with all of my heart and I know he loves me and we have such an amazing family. None of those are an accuse, but a small chance that a therapist could help. You could be the most confident woman in the world, yet because your marriage is on the rocks due to a cheating husband, you instantly feel your self-esteem take a hit. He cheated and a month later he moved to another city. i am so low over the loss of my best friend and Mother I think I might as well just get splitting up over and done with because he will never change. This is not the first time that Ive caught him texting/ flirting with other women. He explained that he wants a partner that is young, beautiful , intelligent , and that could support him while he starts a business. When I confront him about anything, he always has an excuse. Successful marriages without cheating have been found to be between two people who take their vows seriously, the same way they live according to their values. He tells me that its not professional and theres other ways. I cannot turn my head to drive, walk, or lay on my side. I happened to find out recently that someone I know knows her and her history and said that my husband really wasnt doing anything wrong and also that there is no way this woman is interested in him. He said he found out her brother was in the same singing group as my brother back in the 80s and they began to talk more when he came through the line. Hello, I dont know what to do I have been married 10yrs and it has not always been easy. my husband is not showing interest on me. There's only one way to know if your partner is cheating: Nope, it's not by thumbing through their text messages and emails. Answer (1 of 48): For everyone saying why do you need his verification. The wknds he wasnt home. Interesting note about the truth being encased in a misleading word structure apparently I never f***ing learn to leave his s*** alone, and that if I look Ill find it. Research from the University of Guelph shows that people with sexual performance anxiety are more likely to cheat on their partners. I found out this year in March the day before my birthday actually. We even got in to a fight about weed and alchol i dont have a problem with either one i smoke weed but i do not do any other drugs he asked me to stop because he doesnt like it. im worried that my husband cheating on me he had cheated three times we just were getting ready for a baby he got me pregnat so young 16 i had no wher he started lying we just have arguments everyday, ive been married for one year and we have two adorable kids, lately i heard that my husband is having an affair + that women just gaved birth. He is my first and only and i was so happless. Lets go and support them. So my story is.. Trying to sweep it under the rug like it never happened. Hi Jan Of course women cheat! Bottom line, you deserve better honey! And needless to say it didnt work. Its time you reassess yourself and really determine your self worth. Make him conscious and force him to try to hide the truth even more. I dont know if your husband is cheating but I tend to agree with you, that you may be overthinking things. I am so sorry to hear this. I told her that I wondered about how she carried herself, since she was being referred to as my husband P*$$& that she must be very inappropriate for that to be said about her. It sounds like your husband is trying to hide his activities from you, and that you suspect he is cheating. His actions tell you everything you need to know about exactly how sorry he is when confronted about his cheating, he KEPT CHEATING. Draw on the resources you have, and dont let your husband steal away your spark. True Love doesn't live in your marriage anymore so why stay. Time went on & I let it pass, still feeling guilty For not following through! Hes asked what can he do to fix this. 3. My kids have also took a back seat.. Its interesting to hear your perspective, especially that you dont lie about your affairs. may not make for the most romantic conversation, but it's better than one day telling your partner you cheated when they'd rather you kept it to yourself, or vice versa. Hello my husband and I have been together for 12 years married for 6. I dont know what else to do. If your husband isnt willing to work on your marriage, then it doesnt matter if hes cheating. You are creating insecurities if one day you loving and the next day your moody. And I mean everything a person needs. The type of cheating will probably be one-night stands or paid sex because it involves women who he doesn't care about and therefore doesn't feel he has anything to prove to them. Been with my teen love for 8 years we r now 24 years old n have a 2year old boy.my. The bottom line is if you trust your gut, you know whats going onif things are right or not. That it must of been attached to a junk email he got. What privacy does a husband deserve FROM HIS WIFE? He told me this that day a week later when I found her name in his address book. Currently I was told that my wife went up to the super market to go shopping. He said ok hell tell her, well,.. i check his phone a week later and theres a txt from him to her saying HIM: just saying hi HER Hey Miss u Now i am mad at this point, i questioned him yet again! If he does it more then once leave his ass. fights fought? I mentioned that she was young (half his age). Im done!. This is a lot of things he has done but emotionally in other ways he can be a very good man. So this first girl, I assume they met in the beginning of this year. He will have them in my face but pretend there friends and later because of there actions toward me I realize hes cheating with her. I agree with you 100%. Put God in the center and everything will come together! I found out my husband was cheating with his co worker on fathers day 2011 by emails that they had been sending back and forth. Im in the same position, and I dont know what to do. He has always been a wonderful father. I have no idea who he is. What do you think about talking to a therapist, just to sort through your issues? An incident happened this weekend and I wantnto get your opinion on this. He says he wants nothing more than me now. He went to great lengths to make me feel secure. I always ask him to take a test..but the answer will be no. I was sexually abused for 5 years of my childhood. What she liked more was that it hurt me, bothered me, upset me. That area in a marriage should always be up for discussion, never hid or kept secret like an affair because surprisingly some women may be opt to get more comfortable with your hobbies and of course others may not. Why are you asking me? At that point she will give you the reasons for her suspicions. I never had a real true fear that he woukd actually cheat. I can say that though I do not know him, some times in every marraige it has its ups and downs. I also saw she hadnt responded to him. He would say good morning and goodnight. I go in and check his email, I found an itinerary for a hotel room in our city. I think, quite possibly just friends. I would love professional advice as to what I should do?? Lately, hes late Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday and do not call if he is. I know how hard it isbut staying in a marriage where you think your husband is lying to you is worse than the pain of leaving. If you feel like hed cheat on you, then he probably will. I dont know if your husband is cheating, or lying, or both, or neither. He could her everything about us. Ok Im plum dumb founded at this point, so I couldnt ansrew. Even you track him in gps or on his cell phone dont say nothing unless you see him in your eyes cheating, again they will lie if we dont have hard evidence. And, marriage of 5 1/2 yrs. I have never seen this woman or boy before. When hes with me, hes distant. 5. Just try to see the funny side. He was and always has been the most affectionate man who couldnt keep his hands off of me for 10vofctyesec12 years. Tell me what three things you most want to see happen with your husband and your life. Up to this day he hasnt told me where he was. If he has performance anxiety in the bedroom, he may be more likely to be unfaithful in marriage. How she would love to believe it is all in her head. I was trying to convey this to my H tonight when he tried making me wrong for having trust issues. He was telling me I am paranoid, controlling, making him feel paranoid.. while all I wanted was to understand why and how can someone be so cruel and cold. He recently switched jobs and now he is a flagger i have been really worried lately that he has been maybe messing around with her. o.k. I cant tell you if you should leave him, or if hes cheating. There is no excuse for infidelity of any kind. Hes only told me he loves me twice in the entire year and it was more at the 3 month mark, not so much anytime in the past few months. but that only lasted a month, like usually. Ive been in a serious relationship for five years (the type where weve always talked about growing old together/marriage/kids/all of that stuff). i understand it difficult to handle that but somtimes also when u are on your own, you dont ask your husband,boyfrien, fiance his where about he always confuse thinking, why is my wife not asking me this and that, then he will start thinking is she having a affirs with someone, then he will start to be ashame of him self and slowly if he is really love you he will change, unless he is having secret that is hidding from you. Now while I was pregnant with our 3rd child, I didnt have an ounce of libido. Which I can see why because I did rage pretty bad. I pray for wisdom, clarity, insight, and connection with people in person who can help you find and face the truth. Even now after three months he says he is physically not attracted to her anymore. We began to go out more often with other friends and her, and we became close friends. I dont believe this crap for a second and I prayed on it. He has also lost some interest in sex and I have noticed he doesnt miss me or want to see me when I havent seen him in a couple days which is totally different then usualAre we just going through a stage or are my concerns legitimate?? One night he was on call at the local tow company he worked for and a text message came in that he slept through. and face whatever if he was really sorry and remorseful so he did and he is begging for forgiveness and said he will never do it again and he was stupid and he just was curious to know what it felt to be with somebody else, had no feelings for any of them but feels horrible for doing it and keeping it a secret and he wants and loves me and knows for sure that he deserves anything I decide, it has been 3 months he cries and gives me love notes, prays every day, reads the bible, goes to church, goes to confession, and signed up us to a Marriage encounter so I wont leave him, he says he will give his live for me to be a happy person now and to give him an opportunity even though he knows he does not deserve it. Narcissists won't usually admit to cheating on their partner. We got married back in 2006 and went on our honeymoon. 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